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Do you listen to respond or listen to understand? While many books are written about how to get your point across, effective communication is about transmitting and receiving messages as close to the intended meaning as possible. What causes the deterioration of the intended meaning? You. Real-world communication can be compared to standing on a two-way street filled with loud and distracting traffic. Imagine that you are on one side of that street, but the person trying to speak with you is on the other side. There are barriers and blockades so that neither of you can cross, and you are trying to get messages back and forth. In reality, this represents the many barriers created by your personal perspectives and filters that you have been accumulating your entire life. Unfortunately, this often interferes with your ability to clearly understand or clearly transmit your message. So... how do we get from this noisy, busy street to better understanding? The first step in truly listening is learning how to get out of your own way. The roadmap to become an effective communicator lies within.

For the first time ever, this book deconstructs a BDSM scene and rebuilds them component by component to explain why you do what you do in a scene-and how to do it intentionally and reliably to achieve extraordinary, consistent results. By the time you have learned to implement this material, your toys will have become extensions of your will. You will know how to speak the physical language (in addition to the verbal language) of connection. With practice and application, these skills will energize your play and elevate it from a mundane to a transcendent experience. We provide a recipe of sorts; a formula for reliably producing magical play scenes.

Many get tripped up over the very concept of written protocols. We've met many Masters who believe that writing out the way they want things done removes creativity from the relationship. That's not the way we see it.In our experience, a protocol manual is much more than documenting rules of service. Writing a protocol manual helps you examine and refine your relationship and your relationship management style. The very process of creating a manual such as this reveals the kinds of service Master really wants from the slave and the kinds of service the slave can actually deliver. In that light, writing a protocol manual is an exercise in clarifying the intent of your relationship.Biased as we are, we assert that protocols help to reprogram both the Master's and the slave's brains. They help you create habits. Protocols don't merely define how you look on the outside, protocols help shape how you think on the inside. Since protocols specify the way Master wants this particular slave to do things, and since people are different from one another, protocol manuals are person-specific.