The aware communicator - Colin Adams - Bog

The capacity to express what you want in life with clarity is a prerequisite for emotional well-being. This can be learned and is not a natural talent. You learned from people who were not skilled at communicating their wants, which is why you are not good at doing so.
Making it as simple as possible for another person to fulfill your desire by asking for the precise behavior that will do so is the fundamental tenet of conscious communication. People sometimes try to make up for their
feelings of vulnerability by acting aggressively and threateningly, hoping that this would boost their chances of receiving what they want. This strategy frequently produces the opposite result. A demand suggests that the donor has the right to dictate to others since the recipient is of lower worth than the giver.
You won't likely submit to my requests without resistance and resentment, even if you do. You will eventually become unwilling to obey my orders and stop providing for my requirements. All connections, including those with your friends, family, coworkers, kids, and parents, fall under the umbrella of this rule. GRAB A COPY OF THIS BOOK NOW AND HAVE A GOOD READ.