Bøger af Esther Perel

Vi forventer, at vores parforhold skal være romantisk og både følelsesmæssigt og seksuelt tilfredsstillende. Er det så underligt, at mange forhold bryder sammen under vægten af de krav? Det er svært at oparbejde spænding, forventning og begær med det samme menneske, som man ønsker tryghed og stabilitet hos. Men det er ikke umuligt. Esther Perel har 7 millioner views på TED Talk. Bogen er oversat til 26 sprog. Esther Perel har mere end 20 års erfaring som praktiserende parterapeut og er toneangivende i sin skarpe, tankevækkende og også provokerende tilgang til intimitet og sex. I Erotisk intelligens undersøger hun det komplekse i at fastholde lysten i et længerevarende parforhold. Hun udfordrer paradokset mellem tryghed og begær og viser gennem cases og eksempler, hvordan I får lysten hjem igen. Med humor og indsigt vil Erotisk intelligens forandre den måde, du lever og elsker på.

When you love someone, how does it feel? And when you desire someone, how is it different? In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel looks at the story of sex in committed couples. Modern romance promises it all - a lifetime of togetherness, intimacy and erotic desire. In reality, it's hard to want what you already have. Our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. And often, the very thing that got us to into our relationships - lust - is the one thing that goes missing from them. Determined to reconcile the erotic and the domestic, Perel explains why democracy is a passion killer in the bedroom. Argues for playfulness, distance, and uncertainty. And shows what it takes to bring lust home. Smart, sexy and explosively original, Mating in Captivity is the monogamist's essential bedside read.

Hvorfor er folk utro? Og hvad kan utroskab lære os om kærlighed? En affære kan være ødelæggende for et parforhold. Det ved vi godt. Vi ved også, at utroskab har eksisteret lige så længe som ægteskabet. Alligevel ved vi så lidt om det. Og at prøve at forstå utroskab er vel at mærke ikke det samme som at legitimere det. Esther Perel mener, at utroskab kan lære os vigtige ting om vores følelsesliv – hvad vi forventer, hvad vi tror vi ønsker, hvad vi føler vi har ret til. Ved at se på ’forbudt’ kærlighed fra flere vinkler og væve cases fra sin mangeårige og internationale praksis sammen med en kulturel og psykologisk analyse af fænomenet, inviterer Perel læserne ind i en ærlig, oplysende og underholdende undersøgelse af kærlighed i dens mange former.

"Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever?Can we want what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster? Does good intimacy always make for good sex?"Ether Perel takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.In her twenty years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on? In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.While "Mating in Captivity "shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

Translation of State of affairs: rethinking infidelity.

Iconic couples therapist and bestselling author ofMating in CaptivityEsther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity.An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboouniversally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheateven those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book.For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. Anaffaircan even be the doorway to a new marriagewith the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart.Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationshipswhat we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.Fiercely intelligent,TheStateofAffairsprovides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.