Bøger af Phyllis Williams-Strawder

The sex talk. It has to be one of the hardest conversations a parent could have with a child. No parent, even the most liberal, wants to imagine their baby one day having sex. Likewise, no child wants the image of how they were created etched in their brain. How is it that something so beautiful and pleasurable can be so taboo? This book goes beyond the mechanics and gets to the heart of the matter That Damn Girl Stuff gives you a front row seat to the conversation between a mother and her nine-year-old daughter when they talk about sex. Strawder tells her daughter she never had this conversation growing up and she refused to let her do the same. The conversations with her daughter are relevant, funny, and thought-provoking. In between the talks, Strawder reveals more and more of why she has these conversations at an age most would consider too young. Morgan, her daughter, after talking with her mom decides she wants no parts of puberty. She comes to look forward to the talks and at the same time run in the opposite direction when her mom calls her. When she sees she has to talk with her mom and dad, thought her world would end. She goes from giving her mom a hard time about calling her budding breast warts to ask one last questions. That Damn Girl Stuff is a conversation she started having with her daughter when she was nine years old, and the conversation isn't over. Strawder discloses her hardships and mistakes with men in hopes of saving her daughter some pain down the line.

This book acknowledges the life balance bullshit and punches it in the face. Instead of chasing balance, just make a fucking decision and move on. You will learn from it or lead with it. Work/life balance is a myth. Life is not meant to be balanced, it's meant to be lived. That myth is why the author, Phyllis Williams-Strawder, believes balance is bullshit. She recognizes the day-to-day struggle of solopreneurs and decision-making. You deal with it, not balance it. Balance Is Bullshit is written to get you in the right frame of mind for the solopreneur decisions ahead. Your business requires you to say yes to something while saying no to something else. You can't distract yourself or ignore the ones that scare you or the ones you don't like. The self-diagnosis of imposter syndrome runs rampant in the solopreneur community. They second guess most of their decisions because the wrong one could be the difference between rib eye and ramen. The world over, people were unprepared to make hard decisions about their livelihood when the pandemic hit. Never before had work/life balance felt like so much horse shit. Many become solopreneurs by force. It's hard to lead a business when you can't decide on the direction. To grow and scale a business beyond a party-of-one requires decisions upon decisions. Enough is enough, says author Phyllis Williams-Strawder. She is known as the Ghetto Country Brandmother(R). As the brandmother, she's no strategy to solopreneurs who won't make a decision. For them, the FOMO is damn near tangible. Suggestions come from everyone with an opinion when you decide to "leave a good job" to start a business. Even people who don't have a business, nor a desire to start a business, suddenly become experts on how to be a successful solopreneur. And so it goes, until all that's left is an empty husk of a person with no safe place to share.

In the gritty landscape of a girl's journey into womanhood, solitude is a myth. She carries the weight of generations before her, their stories etched into her soul. But the heaviest burden she bears is the expectation - the expectation of her femininity, her body, her worth. It's that last one that clenches its grip the tightest, for she must forge her value in the fires of her own existence. Phyllis Williams-Strawder, the firebrand herself, wrestled with her worth. She once believed it lay in the whispers of lovers who passed through her life like shadows, leaving traces of doubt in their wake. With each fleeting encounter, she felt herself sinking, as if she couldn't measure up to the archetype of womanhood she'd built in her mind. But at 41, pregnant for the third time with no babies to show for it, Phyllis faced a pivotal moment. Her promise to her husband that this would be their last attempt hung in the balance. As the days passed, hope clawed its way into her heart. The moment of revelation came with a sigh of relief - "IT'S A GIRL!" Yet, joy was quickly eclipsed by the daunting prospect of raising a daughter. At 18 weeks, Phyllis resolved to have "the talk," not the one about where babies come from, but the one about all THAT DAMN GIRL STUFF that mothers often neglect to share. It was then that she realized she had to unveil her biggest secret. "That Damn Girl Stuff" is an unapologetic, raw, and gripping memoir of a mother's journey to prepare her daughter for puberty. It's a tale of transparency and vulnerability, as a mother bares her soul to teach her daughter the true meaning of worth. Brace yourself for a rollercoaster of emotions, laughter, and heartache, as this mother-daughter duo navigates the uncharted waters of womanhood, armed only with love, wisdom, and the power of their shared story.