Bøger af Sam Vaknin

Il sesso è morto, così come il matrimonio monogamico. Cosa li sostituirà? Leggete gli stili di vita alternativi (come lo scambismo), le preferenze sessuali (come la bi- e l'omosessualità), le parafilie sessuali (come l'incesto, il feticismo e la pedofilia) e il ruolo del narcisismo maligno nella disintegrazione di tutte le relazioni tra uomini e donne. L'antica istituzione del matrimonio monogamico mal si adatta alle esigenze della moderna civiltà occidentale. Le persone di entrambi i sessi vivono e lavorano più a lungo (il che rende la monogamia impraticabile), viaggiano spesso lontano e sono esposte ad allettanti alternative romantiche attraverso i social network e in vari ambienti lavorativi e sociali. Così, anche se la monogamia sociale e l'impegno e il legame di coppia sono ancora in gran parte intatti e più tollerati che mai e anche se l'infedeltà è condannata con fervore, l'esclusività sessuale (erroneamente definita "monogamia sessuale") è in declino, soprattutto tra i giovani e gli anziani. La monogamia sta diventando un'alternativa tra molti stili di vita e il matrimonio solo una relazione tra poche (a volte nemmeno una relazione privilegiata o unica, poiché compete per tempo e risorse con il lavoro, gli amici dello stesso sesso, gli amici con benefici).

Sex ist tot, die monogame Ehe auch. Was wird an ihre Stelle treten? Lesen Sie über alternative Lebensstile (wie Swinging), sexuelle Vorlieben (wie Bi- und Homosexualität), sexuelle Paraphilien (wie Inzest, Fetischismus und Pädophilie) und die Rolle des bösartigen Narzissmus beim Zerfall aller Beziehungen zwischen Männern und Frauen. Die antike Institution der monogamen Ehe ist für die Anforderungen der modernen westlichen Zivilisation nicht geeignet. Menschen beiderlei Geschlechts leben und arbeiten länger (was die Monogamie unpraktikabel macht), reisen häufig weit weg und sind verlockenden romantischen Alternativen über soziale Netzwerke und in verschiedenen beruflichen und gesellschaftlichen Umfeldern ausgesetzt. Obwohl die soziale Monogamie und die Bindung zwischen Paaren weitgehend intakt sind und mehr denn je geduldet werden und obwohl Untreue vehement verurteilt wird, nimmt die sexuelle Exklusivität (fälschlicherweise als "sexuelle Monogamie" bezeichnet) ab, insbesondere bei jungen und alten Menschen. Die Monogamie wird zu einer Alternative unter vielen Lebensstilen und die Ehe nur zu einer Beziehung unter wenigen (manchmal nicht einmal eine privilegierte oder einzigartige Beziehung, da sie mit der Arbeit, gleichgeschlechtlichen Freunden und Freunden mit Zusatzleistungen um Zeit und Ressourcen konkurriert).

Sex mertw, kak i monogamnyj brak. Chto pridet im na smenu? Chitajte ob al'ternatiwnyh stilqh zhizni (takih kak swingerstwo), sexual'nyh predpochteniqh (takih kak bi- i gomosexual'nost'), sexual'nyh parafiliqh (takih kak incest, fetishizm i pedofiliq) i o roli zlokachestwennogo narcissizma w raspade wseh otnoshenij mezhdu muzhchinami i zhenschinami. Drewnij institut monogamnogo braka ploho prisposoblen k trebowaniqm sowremennoj zapadnoj ciwilizacii. Lüdi oboih polow zhiwut i rabotaüt dol'she (chto delaet monogamiü neosuschestwimoj), chasto puteshestwuüt na bol'shie rasstoqniq i podwergaütsq wozdejstwiü zamanchiwyh romanticheskih al'ternatiw cherez social'nye seti, na rabote i w obschestwe. Takim obrazom, nesmotrq na to, chto social'naq monogamiq, obqzatel'stwa i swqz' w pare wse esche w znachitel'noj stepeni sohranqütsq i odobrqütsq bol'she, chem kogda-libo, a newernost' gorqcho osuzhdaetsq, sexual'naq isklüchitel'nost' (neprawil'no nazywaemaq "sexual'noj monogamiej") snizhaetsq, osobenno sredi molodyh i pozhilyh lüdej. Monogamiq stanowitsq odnoj iz al'ternatiw mnogih stilej zhizni, a brak - lish' odnim iz widow otnoshenij sredi neskol'kih (inogda dazhe ne priwilegirowannym ili unikal'nym, poskol'ku on konkuriruet za wremq i resursy s rabotoj, odnopolymi druz'qmi, druz'qmi s wygodoj).

O sexo está morto, tal como o casamento monogâmico. O que os substituirá? leia sobre estilos de vida alternativos (como o swing), preferências sexuais (como a bi- e a homossexualidade), parafilias sexuais (como o incesto, o fetichismo e a pedofilia) e o papel do narcisismo maligno na desintegração de todas as relações entre homens e mulheres. A antiga instituição do casamento monogâmico é inadequada para as exigências da civilização ocidental moderna. As pessoas de ambos os sexos vivem e trabalham durante mais tempo (o que torna a monogamia impraticável); viajam para longe com frequência; e estão expostas a alternativas românticas tentadoras através das redes sociais e em vários locais de trabalho e ambientes sociais. Assim, apesar de a monogamia social e o compromisso e a ligação entre pares continuarem em grande parte intactos e serem mais tolerados do que nunca, e apesar de a infidelidade ser fervorosamente condenada, a exclusividade sexual (erradamente designada por "monogamia sexual") está a diminuir, especialmente entre os jovens e os idosos. A monogamia está a tornar-se uma alternativa entre muitos estilos de vida e o casamento apenas uma relação entre poucas (por vezes, nem sequer uma relação privilegiada ou única, uma vez que compete por tempo e recursos com o trabalho, amigos do mesmo sexo, amigos com benefícios).

Le sexe est mort, tout comme le mariage monogame. Qu'est-ce qui va les remplacer ? Lisez des articles sur les modes de vie alternatifs (comme l'échangisme), les préférences sexuelles (comme la bi- et l'homosexualité), les paraphilies sexuelles (comme l'inceste, le fétichisme et la pédophilie), et le rôle du narcissisme malin dans la désintégration de toutes les relations entre les hommes et les femmes. L'ancienne institution du mariage monogame est mal adaptée aux exigences de la civilisation occidentale moderne. Les personnes des deux sexes vivent et travaillent plus longtemps (ce qui rend la monogamie impraticable), voyagent souvent loin et sont exposées à des alternatives romantiques tentantes via les réseaux sociaux et dans divers contextes professionnels et sociaux. Ainsi, même si la monogamie sociale et l'engagement et l'attachement du couple sont encore largement intacts et plus tolérés que jamais, et même si l'infidélité est ardemment condamnée, l'exclusivité sexuelle (appelée à tort "monogamie sexuelle") est en déclin, en particulier chez les jeunes et les personnes âgées. La monogamie devient une alternative parmi d'autres modes de vie et le mariage une relation parmi d'autres (parfois même pas une relation privilégiée ou unique, car elle est en concurrence pour le temps et les ressources avec le travail, les amis du même sexe, les amis avec avantages).

II. Men, Women, Gender WarsIII. Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Other PredatorsIV. Sex and Intimacy: Forgotten ArtsVI. Me, Me, and MeVII.Public Intellect, Private Rants

I. Scams, Scandals, and ScoundrelsII. Men, Women, Gender WarsIII. Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Other PredatorsIV. Sex and Intimacy: Forgotten ArtsV. Democracy, History, and Other FictionsVI. Me, Me, and MeVII.Public Intellect, Private Rants

I. Scams, Scandals, and ScoundrelsII. Men, Women, Gender WarsIII. Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Other PredatorsIV. Sex and Intimacy: Forgotten ArtsV. Democracy, History, and Other FictionsVI. Me, Me, and MeVII.Public Intellect, Private Rants

'The Narcissism Reader: Clinical, Behavioral, Spiritual' is an explorative journey co-authored by Sam Vaknin and Peter Fritz Walter.Sam Vaknin's contributions show that over the past century, pathological narcissism has been construed as a psychological defense, introversion gone awry, a regression, or a personality disorder. It is probably all the above-and much more besides. His contributions to the reader deal with two neglected aspects of this multifarious phenomenon of mental illness: narcissistic mortification (when the narcissist is forced to face himself as others see him or her) and the psychodynamic role of psychological and sexual sadism in these disturbances of the self.Peter Fritz Walter's essays show new holistic ways of coping with sadism, and particularly sexual sadism, acted out either toward adults or toward children. The approach taken is non-judgmental and functional, and emphasizes a bioenergetic point of departure.Information is provided about the true reasons for violent emotional and sexual afflictions and resulting misconduct, and viable alternatives to chaotic sexual behavior and suggestions for behavior adjustment are offered, not through putting up self-punishment and guilt, but in the contrary through understanding the energy-nature and inherent intelligence in our emotions. The primal narcissistic wounding if often the result of parent-child codependence and emotional abuse, as well as a stringent lack of autonomy early in life.From a policy perspective, the way to go is quite exactly the contrary of what is practiced now by our lawmakers and social policy makers; it's the way toward solving the blockage by dissolving the energy obstruction that led to the blockage. This energy obstruction is related to distortions of perception, and a lack of emotional awareness.

I. Scams, Scandals, and ScoundrelsII. Men, Women, Gender WarsIII. Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Other PredatorsIV. Sex and Intimacy: Forgotten ArtsV. Democracy, History, and Other FictionsVI. Me, Me, and MeVII. Public Intellect, Private Rants

Sex is dead as is monogamous marriage. What will replace them? read about alternative lifestyles (such as swinging), sexual preferences (such as bi- and homosexuality), sexual paraphilias (such as incest, fetishism, and pedophilia), and the role of malignant narcissism in the disintegration of all relationships between men and women. The ancient institution of monogamous marriage is ill-suited to the exigencies of modern Western civilization. People of both genders live and work longer (which renders monogamy impracticable); travel far and away frequently; and are exposed to tempting romantic alternatives via social networking and in various workplace and social settings. Thus, even as social monogamy and pair commitment and bonding are still largely intact and more condoned than ever and eve as infidelity is fervently condemned, sexual exclusivity (mislabelled ¿sexual monogamy¿) is declining, especially among the young and the old. Monogamy is becoming one alternative of many lifestyles and marriage only one relationship among a few (sometimes, not even a privileged or unique relationship, as it competes for time and resources with work, same-sex friends, friends with benefits).