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Six-year-old Sheila never spoke, she never cried, and her eyes were filled with hate. Abandoned on a highway by her mother, unwanted by her alcoholic father, Sheila was placed in a class for emotionally disturbed children after she committed an atrocious act of violence against another child. Everyone said Sheila was lost forever, everyone except her teacher, Torey Hayden.Torey fought to reach Sheila, to bring the abused child back from her secret nightmare, because beneath the rage, Torey saw in Sheila the spark of genius. And together they embarked on a wondrous journey?a journey gleaming with a child's joy at discovering a world filled with love and a journey sustained by a young teacher's inspiring bravery and devotion.

Over the course of thirty-five years as a therapist, Susan Forward has worked with a large number of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect, and other forms of abuse, women raised by mothers who can't love are plagued by anxiety, depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence, and difficulties with trust. But as Forward explains, it is possible to heal the mother wound and find help and validation.Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can't Love looks at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters and provides effective techniques to help them overcome the pain of their childhoods, reclaim their confidence and self-respect, and break the cycle of emotional destructiveness for future generations.

For seven years, Alison Arngrim played a wretched, scheming, selfish, lying, manipulative brat on one of TV history's most beloved series. Though millions of Little House on the Prairie viewers hated Nellie Oleson and her evil antics, Arngrim grew to love her character?and the freedom and confidence Nellie inspired in her.In Confessions of a Prairie Bitch, Arngrim describes growing up in Hollywood with her eccentric parents: Thor Arngrim, a talent manager to Liberace and others, whose appetite for publicity was insatiable, and legendary voice actress Norma MacMillan, who played both Gumby and Casper the Friendly Ghost. She recalls her most cherished and often wickedly funny moments behind the scenes of Little House: Michael Landon's "unsaintly" habit of not wearing underwear; how she and Melissa Gilbert (who played her TV nemesis, Laura Ingalls) became best friends and accidentally got drunk on rum cakes at 7-Eleven; and the only time she and Katherine MacGregor (who played Nellie's mom) appeared in public in costume, provoking a posse of elementary schoolgirls to attack them.Arngrim relays all this and more with biting wit, but she also bravely recounts her life's challenges: her struggle to survive a history of traumatic abuse, depression, and paralyzing shyness; the "secret" her father kept from her for twenty years; and the devastating loss of her "Little House husband" and best friend, Steve Tracy, to AIDS, which inspired her second career in social and political activism. Arngrim describes how Nellie Oleson taught her to be bold, daring, and determined, and how she is eternally grateful to have had the biggest little bitch on the prairie to show her the way.

In a situation where forgiveness seems unattainable, I give you a formula that works. I grew up in an environment that was built on secrets that created a destructive family legacy. But as an adult, as I searched for answers, what I found was a web of deception and sexual abuse that was many generations deep. My desire to change this corrosive legacy that was created in my family grew stronger after learning that the sexual abuse and deception was more than I could have ever imagined. My charge is to help others with awareness on a difficult topic that is more prevalent than we would like it to be. Learn how to seek and speak your truth in order to stop surviving and start LIVING..

Groundbreaking book providing hope, encouragement, insights and avenues to start the long overdue dialogue on sexual abuse. Its time for a paradigm shift in the collectivistic culture to provide safety,healing, love and protection for its women and children.

Dark, painful memories can be put away to be forgotten. Until one day they all flood back in horrible detail.When television producers approached Alan Cumming to appear on a popular celebrity genealogy show, he hoped to solve the mystery of his maternal grandfather's disappearance that had long cast a shadow over his family. But this was not the only mystery laid before Alan.Alan grew up in the grip of a man who held his family hostage, someone who meted out violence with a frightening ease, who waged a silent war with himself that sometimes spilled over onto everyone around him. That man was Alex Cumming, Alan's father, whom Alan had not seen or spoken to for more than a decade when he reconnected just before filming for Who Do You Think You Are? began. He had a secret he had to share, one that would shock his son to his very core and set into motion a journey that would change Alan's life forever.With ribald humor, wit, and incredible insight, Alan seamlessly moves back and forth in time, integrating stories from his childhood in Scotland and his experiences today as the celebrated actor of film, television, and stage. At times suspenseful, at times deeply moving, but always incredibly brave and honest, Not My Father's Son is a powerful story of embracing the best aspects of the past and triumphantly pushing the darkness aside.

A remarkable memoir that speaks in an original and distinctive Midwestern voice, rising to indelible scenes in prose of scathing beauty and fierce humor. A young girl is perched on the cold chrome of yet another doctor's examining table, missing yet another day of school. Just twelve, she's tall, skinny, and weak. It's four o'clock, and she hasn't been allowed to eat anything all day. Her mother, on the other hand, seems curiously excited. She's about to suggest open-heart surgery on her child to "get to the bottom of this." She checks her teeth for lipstick and, as the doctor enters, shoots the girl a warning glance. This child will not ruin her plans.From early childhood, Julie Gregory was continually X-rayed, medicated, and operated on-in the vain pursuit of an illness that was created in her mother's mind. Munchausen by proxy (MBP) is the world's most hidden and dangerous form of child abuse, in which the caretaker-almost always the mother-invents or induces symptoms in her child because she craves the attention of medical professionals. Many MBP children die, but Julie Gregory not only survived, she escaped the powerful orbit of her mother's madness and rebuilt her identity as a vibrant, healthy young woman.Punctuated with Julie's actual medical records, Sickened re-creates the bizarre cocoon of her family's isolated double-wide trailer, their wild shopping sprees and gun-waving confrontations, the astonishing naïveté of medical professionals and social workers. It also exposes the twisted bonds of terror and love that roped Julie's family together-including the love that made a child willing to sacrifice herself to win her mother's happiness. The realization that the sickness lay in her mother, not in herself, would not come to Julie until adulthood. But when it did, it would strike like lightning. Through her painful metamorphosis, she discovered the courage to save her own life-and, ultimately, the life of the girl her mother had found to replace her. Sickened takes us to new places in the human heart and spirit. It is an unforgettable story, unforgettably told.

Det her er min fortælling om, hvordan jeg har udviklet mig, og hvordan jeg er vokset efter mine traumatiserende oplevelser. Som 12-årig udsatte min far mig for incest. Det har medført senfølger såsom angst og posttraumatisk stress. Jeg fortæller om ensomheden og forkerthedsfølelsen. Hvordan det er at bryde tabuet om at være udsat for incest. Jeg fortæller om min historie, om at udvikle mig fra at være offer og leve i offermentalitet til i dag at være en fighter med et stort F. Og meget, meget mere. Jeg har skrevet min bog til andre ofre, så de kan se, at det er muligt at udvikle sig i en positiv retning og leve et almindeligt liv trods en tung bagage. Min bog er også til pårørende, så de har mulighed for bedre at forstå. Og til fagpersoner eller andre interesserede, som ønsker mere viden om at leve med psykiske udfordringer og overleve overgreb. Uddrag af bogenDa dagen kom, var jeg fyldt med anspændthed. Jeg var nervøs. Ondt i maven. Anspændt helt ned til mine tæer og op igen. Onde sommerfugle i min mave. De rumsterede. Det har de gjort, lige siden han forgreb sig på mig. Det gør de stadig, når jeg har angst. Når jeg er bange. Når noget, jeg frygter, skal ske. Når jeg skal være midtpunktet. Når jeg får opmærksomhed. Det var første gang, at jeg skulle se ham, efter at han var blevet anholdt. Jeg havde næsten glemt, hvordan han så ud. Hvordan hans stemme lød. Om forfatteren Emilie Staach Hedemand (f. 1997) læser til socialrådgiver. Som 12-årig blev hun udsat for incest, og i slutningen af sin HF besluttede hun sig for at fortælle sin historie for at hjælpe andre ofre og oplyse pårørende.

"Her er historien om tre småpiger, den 5-årige Viola, den 3-årige Bella og et udøbt lille barn: Da Viola og Bella var 4 og 2 år, blev de indlagt på hospitalet, lidende af gonorré og befængte med lus. Sygeplejerskerne lagde mærke til, at de begge havde et tykt lag snavs i deres små hoveder. Rapporterne fortæller, at deres mor gør et upålideligt indtryk. Hun siger, at hun tror, børnene er blevet smittet af en veninde, der har delt seng med dem. Det er anden gang, den 4-årige Viola er syg med gonorré. Men det skulle ikke blive den sidste.""Afsporet ungdom" fra 1942 giver et hudløst realistisk billede af forholdene for børn og unge i de lavere klasser af det danske samfund i starten af 1940’erne. Bogen er en opsang til forældre om at tage ansvar for børnene og et opråb til myndighederne om at skride til handling i de familier, hvor forældrene enten er ude af stand til eller uinteresserede i at tage sig af børnene.Kate Fleron (1909-2006) var dansk modstandskvinde, journalist og forfatter. Hun spillede en vigtig rolle under besættelsen, hvor hun var en del af modstandsorganisationen "Frit Danmark", hvis blad hun senere blev redaktør på. Efter krigens afslutning fik hun sæde i Frihedsbevægelsens Samråd, som i sommeren 1945 afløste Danmarks Frihedsråd, og i 1972 modtog hun PH-prisen for sit store bidrag til dansk kultur- og åndsliv. Kate Fleron udgav blandt andet debatbøger, romaner og artikler om aktuelle politiske forhold.

”Jeg forstod det ikke på det tidspunkt … Men jeg forstår det nu. Det er meget, meget vigtig viden:Du kan godt stole på hvad, du mærker. Stå op for dig selv! Forsvar dig. Lad være med bare at tilgive og tilgive, hvis nogen behandler dig dårligt. Sæt en grænse!”Dette er en rystende beretning om en barndom og ungdom med seksuelle overgreb og manipulation.Det er fortællingen om at komme meget langt væk fra sig selv, men også om helingen og vejen tilbage.Om at få den rette hjælp og tage sin historie og sin styrke til sig.Om forfatterenLone Holm (f. 1967) er dyrlæge og bryder i denne bog de tunge hemmeligheder, hun blev pålagt som barn, og tabuet om at have været udsat for seksuelle overgreb i barndommen.Det er hendes håb, at bogen kan bidrage til, at flere lægger skammen fra sig.

KAN DU SE LYSET – er den rystende beretning om en barndom med vold og incest. I bogen følger vi Birne Dalbjergs opvækst i en familie, der er gennemsyret af dysfunktionelle relationer. Med start i 1950 ́erne føres læseren ind i en grufuld barndom med vold, psykisk terror og seksuelle overgreb begået af hendes nærmeste familie og omgangskreds. Bag den pæne facade gennemlevede Birne en barndom i helvede uden den mindste form for oprigtig omsorg og kærlighed. Det blev til en afgrundsdyb depression, hvor mørket truede med at vinde. Blot ti år gammel kommer Birne ud for en strømulykke og er tæt på at dø, men nærdødsoplevelsen bringer et ”Lys” ind i hendes liv, der senere afholder hende fra at begå selvmord. ”Lyset” hjælper Birne med at udholde den uhyggelige barndom og opvækst. Bogen er et vidnesbyrd om en næsten overmenneskelig kamp for at ville lykken og insistere på at se glæden i livet. Birne Dalbjerg (f. 1955) er opvokset i det smukke Nordsjælland og har en musikpædagogisk eksamen. KAN DU SE LYSET er hendes debut som forfatter, og bogen er skrevet for ikke at lade vrede, sorg, magtesløshed og håbløshed være det styrende i hendes liv.