Bøger af Stan Tatkin

Wired for Love offers couples principles from attachment theory and cognitive neuroscience to help them to please and soothe their partners, how to quickly resolve common pitfalls and conflicts, and easy ways to increase feelings of comfort and security.

In the age of online dating, finding a real connection can seem more daunting than ever! So, why not stack the odds of finding the right person in your favor? This book offers simple, proven-effective principles drawn from neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find the perfect mate.

Break the Cycle: A Comprehensive Guide to Overcome Chronic Relationship Struggles Few things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. Playing out the same disagreement about money, parenting, sex, or household chores may leave you exhausted, cut off from the person you want to feel close to. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible. With In Each Other's Care, Stan Tatkin shares a hands-on repair manual that will help you discover how arguments get triggered, why they keep happening, and what you can do to get better at communicating what you want without the drama.Drawing on his vast experience as a couples therapist, Tatkin uses the concept of secure functioning-a two-person psychological system of teamwork, full collaboration, and cooperation based on fairness, justice, and mutual sensitivity. This form of unionizing "takes time to learn," Tatkin says. "And still, the rewards are awesome and make the effort worthwhile. Secure functioning benefits you, your partner, your family, your friends, everything, and everyone."Throughout In Each Other's Care, Tatkin offers targeted lessons, sample dialogues, and heartfelt wisdom. Through this life-changing practice, you will be able to:. Identify the source of unhappiness in your relationship. Learn techniques for preventing problems before they occur. Heal the emotional wounds of the past. Transform conflict and struggle into win-win outcomes. Renew broken connections and return to intimacyWhether you've been in a relationship for years or are just beginning the journey, In Each Other's Care is a wonderfully supportive guide that will show you how to work through even the most contentious topics with compassion and respect.

With more than 170,000 copies sold, Wired for Love is the complete "insider's guide" to understanding your partner's brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing new research drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition presents the ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised and updated edition includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help readers create safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third--any outside source which threatens the harmony in a relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs.

"If you and your prospective partner adopt the principles and skills I describe here, your relationship will be successful-not just for starters, but for the long run." An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union Committing fully to a loving partnership-a "we"-can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you'll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds? "All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships," writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. "You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times." In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You'll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love. Highlights include:Create a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation. It's all about prevention-learn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur. Understand how to work with the psychological and biological influences in your relationship-neuroscience, arousal regulation, attachment theory, and more. Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections. Dozens of exercises-the newlywed game, reading facial expressions, and many more fun and serious practices to develop intimacy and security. Handling conflict-how to broker win-win outcomes. Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a couple Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage-much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you'll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

Neuroscience and couples therapy come together to help couples break patterns of bad behavior.