Why We Fail At Romantic Relationships - George Bissett - Bog

This book is NOT about sex. It is about romance - mostly because, without romance, sex can become less than it could/should be. To me, love and sex seem to be separate entities. But that is just my opinion and whatever your opinion is, it is every bit as valid as mine. In the book, there are sections on codependency and counterdependency, written so as to make them more understandable to those readers who may not have studied or researched those behaviors - which are very stressful. In fact, many things that are stressful to us as a result of the behaviors of others can be handled if one is able to detach, a definition of which is: -I didn't cause it
-I can't control it
-I can't cure it
-I can't change it - but I can change myself Detaching will put you on the path to no longer suffering as a result of someone else's behavior because you are what your deep driving desire is and as your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny. Or, another way of saying it is, if you don't know where you're going any road will get you there.
So, this book is about putting the romance back into intimate relationships so that the sexual part becomes a reward and not a duty or a punishment. Let me explain... Sexual intercourse can obviously be used for procreation but it can also be used to communicate, to comfort, and - unfortunately - to punish. Same act with different reasons and outcomes. And that may very well be why so many intimate relationships collapse; they lack romance.