Håndtering af mishandling/overgreb

Hvad gør man, når ens partner eller tidligere partner har en narcissistisk personlighedsforstyrrelse?En person, der lider af en narcissistisk personlighedsforstyrrelse, har brug for konstant bekræftelse. Derfor skaber vedkommende ofte en masse konflikter, manipulerer, nedgør og ydmyger andre for selv at føle sig stærkere.Det er aldrig nemt at håndtere en narcissist. og det kan være endnu sværere, hvis du har barn med én. Narcissister manipulerer med deres omgivelser, også deres børn, og hvis du har barn med en narcisssit, skal du hjælpe barnet med at håndtere den psykologiske manipulation, som det bliver udsat for.Denne bog indeholder indsigt, viden og redskaber til at blive opmærksom på og håndtere de forskellige former for manipulation, som narcissister typisk bruger, så du kan passe på dig selv og dit barn. Rigtig mange, der lever eller har levet i et forhold med en narcissist, ender ofte med at føle sig helt forkert og tvivle på sig selv, men når man først forstår, hvad det reelt er, der sker, er det både nemmere at håndtere både de ubehagelige situationer og konflikter, man kan havne i, når man har barn med en narcissist.Berith Siegumfeldt er sygeplejerske, foredragsholder, forfatter og psykologisk rådgiver. Hun har specialiseret sig i den narcissistiske og psykopatiske personlighedsforstyrrelse og i de eftervirkeninger, som psykisk vold og overgreb har på mennesker.Print on demand

Jeg var 11, da min mor strammede tørklædet om mit hår.12, da mine forældre sendte mig på genopdragelse i Marokko.16, da de giftede mig bort til en voksen mand.Og 17, da jeg blev mor.Men jeg nægtede at leve en kuet kvindes liv.MIT INDRE ATLAS er en barsk, men også inspirerende historie om en rebelsk pige fra Roskilde, der ikke passede ind i sine forældres marokkanske glansbillede. Halima El Abassi fortæller om sin stjålne barndom i en familie fuld af forbud, skam og sanktioner. Om mulighederne, livet ikke byder en indvandrerpige, hvis hun bliver for dansk. Om kærlighedens ringe kår i et arrangeret ægteskab. Og om en forrykt skilsmisse, som truede Halima under jorden og sendte hende ud på en altomsluttende personlig nedtur.HALIMA EL ABASSIS historie er på en gang smertelig og forsonende – og den giver håb til den næste generation af danske piger og kvinder med anden etnisk baggrund, der har retten til at bestemme selv.

Omkring ti procent af alle børn i Danmark oplever seksuelle krænkelser fra voksne eller andre børn. Men kun hver femte siger det til nogen og får hjælp. En væsentlig årsag er, at det er vanskeligt og tabubelagt at tale om både for barnet og den voksne. Når børnene ikke fortæller noget, får de hverken hjælp til at stoppe overgrebene eller hjælp til at bearbejde skaderne. I denne håndbog kommer livseksperterne – dem, der har oplevet overgreb – selv til orde med deres oplevelser og anbefalinger. Livseksperternes råd suppleres af fageksperters vejledninger. Den giver et indblik i, hvilke midler seksuelt krænkede børn bruger i forsøget på råbe voksne omsorgspersoner op, så de opdager overgrebene og hjælper med at få dem stoppet. Det kan både som fagperson og privatperson være svært at finde ud af, hvordan man skal gå til en situation, hvor man har mistanke om, at et barn bliver udsat for overgreb, ligesom det kan være svært at vide, hvordan man skal klæde børn på til at kunne sige fra på de rigtige tidspunkter. Derfor denne bog, der med konkrete eksempler kommer rundt om emnet og giver anvisninger på, hvordan man kan spotte signaler og handle.

"Healing and thriving after or even during a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but it is possible. It's Not You shows that the first step is to stop trying to change the narcissistic person, stop blaming yourself, and start giving yourself permission to foster your autonomy and sense of self outside of this relationship"--

Psykisk vold er den skjulte vold, der ikke efterlader fysiske ar på kroppen, men dybe ar på sjælen efter gentagen nedgørelse, ydmygelse, manipulation, kontrol og trusler.Ti trin ud af psykisk vold henvender sig både til dem, der aktuelt oplever psykisk vold i et parforhold eller i en nær familierelation og ønsker at komme fri – og dem, som tidligere har oplevet det, og prøver at forstå, hvad der skete. Og den henvender sig til alle, som ønsker at blive klogere på denne type udbredte vold.Bogen indeholder omfattende viden om, hvad psykisk vold er, et ti-trins program til at hjælpe den psykisk voldsramte ud af situationen samt redskaber til at håndtere eventuel stress, angst, depression og traumer.Begge forfattere har stor erfaring med at hjælpe mennesker, der er eller har været udsat for psykisk vold, bl.a. gennem arbejde i Exitcirklen.

Jenni er fra det andet Østerbro, langt fra spelt og snedkerkøkkener.Hun er født på antabus og opflasket med rejeost og discountcola, omgivet af fulde og dopede voksne.Kort efter sin mors selvmord er hun første gang udsat for jævnaldrende drenges overgreb. Hun er otte, og overgrebene bliver hurtigt hyppigere og hyppigere, drengene flere og flere.”Det bliver ligesom en Ydre Østerbro-ting,” fortæller Jenni i denne bog, der giver et uafrysteligt indblik i, hvad udsatte unge skal overkomme for at skabe deres eget liv.JENNI PÅ GADEN er en kompromisløs coming of age-fortælling om opvækst på stenbroens skyggeside. Om misbrug, vold og overgreb. Om hjemløshed. Om at kravle op fra bunden. Og om kampen for at blive en helt almindelig voksen.JENNI MARIA NIELSEN (født 1998) er pædagogstuderende og arbejder på et opholdssted for udsatte unge. GITTE SØBY MADSEN (f. 1988) er uddannet cand.mag. i dansk og er forfatter til bøger om børn og unge, der lever som udsatte.

Alessandra Gigi Staunstrups historie er en øjenåbnende rejse gennem det danske stripmiljø, men også en skæbnefortælling, der kryber ind under huden.Historien begynder i underklassens nødspor og slutter i overklassens overhalingsbane. Intet er normalt på Alessandras utraditionelle dannelsesrejse. Fra brændt barn og ung og vild på Vestegnen. Til champagnepige i et dansk jetset, hvor pengemænd i dyrt tøj hænger ud med unge kvinder uden nogen af delene. Bogen er en fordomsfri fortælling om miljøer, de færreste almindelige danskere kender. Bogen skildrer de sociale ekstremer i Danmark i én skæbne – og samtidig er det en bevægende, opdateret version af den evige historie om, at alt kan købes for penge, undtagen kærlighed.

Covert narcissists use nuanced manipulation to get what they want from others.Withholding information or giving false information is a common tactic that covert narcissists use to maintain control over a situation or bolster their own agenda.It is hard for people with this personality type to have healthy boundaries with others because of underlying feelings of guilt and excessive responsibility for other people's actions.It's easy to overlook what kind of person you're dealing with because they do not show their true colours right from the start.Covert narcissists are good at manipulating relationships with people who care about them. They put on a friendly social mask that hides their true intent.They also tend to be less obvious than overt narcissists who fly off the handle in anger or act out in public without thinking about consequences for othersThough covert narcissism may be less conspicuous than overt narcissism, yet it is no less damaging! They are experts at acting both joyful and upset with us at the same time. Or they make insulting compliments to us. By the end of the book you will discover: - History of Narcissism- How to spot a covert narcissist- Covert narcissists manipulation tactics- Strategies Before and After the Relationship- Stages of Narcissistic relationship- Effects of Covert Narcissistic Abuse- Dealing with a Covert Narcissist- ... and much more!

Healing after narcissistic abuse IS possible and this book shows you how. Debbie Mirza's first book in this series on narcissism, The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist explained the traits of a covert narcissist and what they look like in real life. In Worthy of Love, the highly anticipated follow-up book, she focuses on how to recover after you realize you have been with a narcissist. How to heal, how to be free, and how to find peace.The effects of narcissistic abuse are deep and profound. Narcissistic Abuse affects you mentally, emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Life-force energy diminishes over time. After so much gaslighting, you lose a clear sense of who you are. Self-esteem and self-worth feel nonexistent because of ongoing devaluing and demeaning behavior. Many survivors have health issues, often chronic conditions that affect them for years after the relationship has ended and it is common to have many symptoms of Complex PTSD. These relationships can bring us to depths of despair, wondering if it is even possible to heal. In this book you will learn:The three phases of healing after narcissistic abuseThe author's story of healing after experiencing several narcissistsElements needed to healHow to trust yourselfHow to have healthy boundariesHow to safeguard yourself from any future relationships with narcissists and toxic peopleWays to strengthen the relationship you have with yourselfWhy narcissists abuseSome reasons we end up with narcissistsHow to deal with smear campaigns and flying monkeysSigns of Complex PTSDWays to regulate your nervous system after years of traumaSimple, yet powerful techniques to heal that you can begin todayPractices of self-care and self-loveHow to rewrite false messages you received about yourselfAnd so much more plus space to journal and answer questions that will help give you clarity, after all the confusion.You will learn information, tools, and practices that will help your body and mind feel more relief, freedom, inner strength, and confidence. And finally, this book will explain why this important and courageous healing path you are on is your hero's journey.

Kraften i Mørket. Om seksuelle overgreb og menneskelige rovdyrSenfølgerne af at have været udsat for seksuelle overgreb som barn eller ung er som en slyngplante, der snor sig ind i mange aspekter af vores liv. I årtier efter overgrebene vil det stadig påvirke dagligdagen, livskvaliteten og vores måde at være til stede i livet på.Når vi taler om seksuelle overgreb, taler vi primært om påvirkningen af seksualiteten, men senfølgerne undergraver også selvfølelsen og følelsen af eksistensberettigelse. Det kan præge forholdet til egen krop, troen på at kunne indgå i relationer til andre og retten til at sætte grænser.Det er mit håb, at du med bogen i hånden vil kunne rejse dig, børste støvet af dig og drage omsorg for dit indre, sårede barn.Det er mit håb, at du finder modet til at gøre op med følelsen af skyld og forkerthed og i stedet holder dig selv skyldfri.Det er mit håb, at læsningen vil hjælpe dig til gradvist at lade skammens kåbe glide til side og i stedet rejse dig i vær-dig-hed.Men du må favne din fortid. Du må opdage, at du er langt mere end det, der skete, og at du ved at møde alle dele af dig selv favner din kraft. Ikke i håbet om at nulstille senfølgerne, men ved at erkende, at det er noget, du skal lære at leve med og tage hånd om – resten af livet..............Til de børn, hvis grænser igen og igen er blevet overskredet og nedbrudt.Til de børn, som ingen har villet lytte til eller har orket at tage sig af.Til misfostrene, de udstødte og de fortabte børn.Til de glemte, de vildfarne og de mishandlede børn.Til de børn, som har mistet troen på sig selv og på Livet.Denne bog er til os./Tanja

Hver femte ung i 9. klasse har prøvet at skære i sig selv (det vi nu kalder cutting), mens hver fjerde pige i 9. klasse er i risiko for at udvikle en spiseforstyrrelse. Det er alarmerende høje tal og derfor nødvendigt at give disse fænomener eller forstyrrelser opmærksomhed. I Jeg gør mig ondt, når … kommer livseksperterne – dem, der lever med skaderne og forstyrrelserne – selv til orde med forklaringer og anbefalinger. Livseksperternes råd suppleres af fageksperters vejledninger. Hvordan skal vi forstå denne risikoadfærd? Hvordan forebygger vi og støtter? Hvor kan vi finde råd, indsigt og viden? Der er ofte ikke lette svar og løsninger. Denne håndbog er ment som en håndsrækning til både fagpersonale og pårørende – og naturligvis de mennesker, der er bekymret for, om de selv er ved at udvikle en selvskadende adfærd.

Selvom revselsesretten blev afskaffet for næsten 30 år siden, udsættes hvert femte barn i Danmark for vold i hjemmet.Nogle børn reddes ud af volden med hjælp fra familiemedlemmer eller velfærdssamfundets sikkerhedsnet, mens andre kan se frem til et liv i kriminalitets-, arbejdsløsheds- og sygdomsstatistikkerne, fordi ingen voksne greb ind.Peter Hummelgaard er selv vokset op i et hjem med vold. Takket være sin mormor og morfar gik det ham godt. Men i dag kender han som justitsminister alt til voldens omkostninger – for det enkelte menneske og for samfundet.Derfor er der brug for flere politiske indsatser. Men der er ikke mindst brug for, at vi hver især påtager os en større samfundsforpligtelse og ser og hjælper børn, der udsættes for vold, uanset hvor den opstår.Vi har som samfund lullet os ind i en forestilling om, at vold mod børn er noget meget sjældent. Det er på tide, at vi afliver den myte én gang for alle. Der er noget, vi skal tale om.

”Francine & Katrine” handler om, hvad der sker efter et seksuelt overgreb. Francine bliver voldtaget af sin universitetsvejleder. Katrine er gift med ham. Romanen handler om de vidtrækkende følger, voldtægten har, ikke kun for de to kvinder, men også for mennesker omkring dem. Det er en fortælling om magt og afmagt, om at vide og fortie og om, hvad man gør for at beskytte sig selv og dem, man elsker. Udgivelsen er en storskrift-udgave til svagsynede i serien MAGNUMBØGER Lindhardt og Ringhof.

Marina Murray in her second book, Scars, takes readers on a journey into the past. A past where she endured the pain and suffering that an abusive marriage can produce. The scars are real, but Marina is a survivor. She wants to encourage her readers that there is hope as well as healing on the other side of abusive relationships. Marina is also the author of Rest for the Weary Soul.

I Can't Breathe is a fictional novel set during the time when a video showing George Floyd's final moments and his dying words, "I Can't Breathe," went viral. The novel depicts its global impact and how it empowered individuals to speak out against discrimination by organizing rallies and marches.Khushboo, the novel's main character and a lawyer, is empathetic to women's concerns and helps many women who are trapped in abusive and suffocating relationships. The novel also briefly depicts racism in its various forms, including sexual harassment at work, negligence in care homes, and so on. Although most people face this, the story shows that some individuals are strong enough to deal with it, while some, like Aadrika, a sensitive and fragile woman, cannot. The novel is set against a backdrop of events in Khushboo and Aadrika's lives, including how they are deceived, betrayed, and abandoned by Anil, her father, but even in the pit of darkness, there are hues of rainbow of love and hope that glimmer momentarily throughout the novel.

Tammy René is a survivor of extreme childhood abuse. She has found healing from its effects and shares her journey to instill hope in other victims and understanding in communities.If you are asking how to heal from childhood trauma, or if it's even possible, Miracles in the Dark: How a Childhood Cult and Abuse Survivor Reclaimed the Light can help answer those questions. It is a compelling and raw story of overcoming the trauma of childhood abuse. In Miracles in the Dark you will gain insights about:The power in accepting and processing the pain of abuseInsights into healing from spiritual abuseHow the kind acts of others -no matter how small- can play a key role in the healing journeyThe reality that healing from childhood trauma is possible"Regardless of the pains and heartache we are called to go through, all of us can find light and hope, ultimately thriving in a life that is uniquely our own." Tammy RenéWhat people are saying:"Tammy's life is proof of the promise 'that all things work together for good to them that love God' (Romans 2:28). The tragic and heartbreaking physical and sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of those who were supposed to protect her may have bruised her, but it did not break her. This powerful story reminds us that even in times of great anguish, God sends angels to give us hope! A truly touching and beautiful demonstration of the strength of the human spirit!"Jodi Orgill Brown, Resilience Expert, Award-winning Professional Speaker & Author

Do you find yourself feeling depressed or worthless with no hope that your life can change? Do you struggle with memories from your past or present sexual or domestic abuse and don't know where to go for help? Then Women of Courage is the workbook for you! It is a Christ-centered support group for survivors of abuse. You will find lessons on healing from shame and guilt, who is responsible, telling your story, and forgiveness, plus much more. You can heal and be empowered to change with Jesus by your side and others who have walked where you are and now are healed and free!

A compelling and poignant memoir about the struggles and triumphs of survivors, and for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of life within the Residential Institutions. Prepare to be moved by this powerful and unforgettable story.

Arriving in the UK in the early 1970s, my parents and siblings were in for a total shock. Everything changed; the weather, the people, the attitudes towards each other and it was the start of a fight to be seen as an equal in this foreign country. There's no denying it; life was a real struggle. I saw and heard things no child should see. My early teenage years were horrendous and I felt a social outcaste. Through grit, determination and an incredibly hard working and resolute mother, we all survived - just. So there you are. We all need to take time out and take a nostalgic look at our past - we all have to Rewind.

"In this electrifying literary memoir, Kate Hamilton deftly traces her complicated journey from loving wife to gaslit victim to furious feminist with an urgent goal: to expose how women are pressured to uphold the institutions of marriage and family, no matter the cost. In the tradition of Know My Name and The Argonauts, Hamilton braids her own story with cultural criticism to argue that we must face the misogyny lurking in the shadows of marriage in the 21st century. She examines the beliefs and conditioning that held her in an increasingly destructive marriage and unflinchingly documents what she did to keep her family together-therapy, unwanted sex with her husband, swinging, affairs, an abortion-without always knowing what she freely chose. And she considers the damage that was done, to herself and others, until she could acknowledge that to save herself and her sons, she had to destroy her marriage. Emotionally intense and timely, Mad Wife interrogates how marriage and the institutions that support it provide the perfect ecosystem for abuse of women and children, endangering their lives and denying them autonomy-all in the service of men's desires"--

Drømme kender hjertets slag – En psykologisk forståelse af senfølger efter overgreb er en bog af Lislotte Jørgensen. Det er en spirituel performancebiografi. Den er både faglitteratur og skønlitteratur. Poesi og prosa. Og ikke mindst drøm og virkelighed. Bogen henvender sig til drømmere i alle aldre. Den henvender sig også til mennesker, der er interesserede i at forstå, hvordan overgreb sætter spor i både krop og sind. DRØMME KENDER HJERTETS SLAG er en poetisk prosafortælling. Den giver et medfølende indblik i, hvordan man kan håndtere overgreb med bevidsthed og intuitiv styrke gennem en narrativ praksis.Vi følger Almas udvikling fra hendes himmelske undfangelse op gennem barndom og ungdom. I hendes søgen efter at forstå sammenhængen mellem alt liv. Omdrejningspunktet er at skabe mening i den lille personlige fortælling ved at forstå den som en del af en større kulturel fortælling.Fortællingen knytter et personligt overgreb i barndommen sammen med hele den nutidige kulturs overgreb på naturen og på de mennesker, der lever i pagt med naturen.Barndommens gordiske knuder af sammenfiltrede tråde af følelsesmæssigt kaos bliver i ungdommen systematisk redt ud, forarbejdet og brugt til at væve nye livsmønstre med fine tråde af psykologisk, spirituel og naturvidenskabelig viden sammen med både personlige oplevelser og almenmenneskelige erfaringer.Fortællingen bæres af en aldrig svigtende tro på at finde følelsesmæssig og spirituel klarhed i det kaos, der til tider eksisterer i et sind som følge af overgreb i barndommen.Vores tankemønstre er en social konstruktion. Og den delvis selvbiografiske roman er en fortælling, hvor hovedpersonens projekt er at dekonstruere den kulturelt indlærte erfaring for i stedet at lytte til sanserne, drømmenes, kroppens og poesiens sprog i labyrinter af lys.

This book is a personal journey of saying no to family trauma and yes to God's blessing. My testimony is as a first hand witness of his goodness and miraculous works in my life.

Description of book:Family was always Juanita's top priority. She was known for her empathy, generosity, and cheerfulness. Until the last nine months of her life, Juanita rolled with the punches and made the best of whatever life presented.Ede weaves together the psychological peculiarities of each member of the Juanita & Rodney nuclear family that ultimately led to Juanita's premature & cruel death. The peculiarities include Ede's trust of her sister.Juanita's fate was sealed when a probate judge chose which attorney would win in his courtroom, rather than what was in her best interests.Get a look into the so-called justice system in the U.S., as viewed inside one probate courtroom. Do you think you have rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, as stated in the Declaration of Independence? Do you think you would be protected by authorities if you were kidnapped? Ede cautions - not so fast.Readers can meet Juanita as she attempts to let the judge know her various reasons for wanting to go home to San Diego by visiting the Remembering Juanita website - https://bronwyn1291.wixsite.com/remembering-juanita. The website also provides access to the court reporter's official transcripts of the six Juanita Martin guardianship hearings.

Once upon a time, in a faraway land, there lived a little girl named Isabel. It was Isabel's dream to become a fairy to help others with her magical powers, so she applied to a school that specialized in teaching little girls how to find their inner powers and strength to do good in the world. It was Isabel's first day in class, and she met her fairy godmother professor named, Lily. Lily was a kind and nurturing person who always tried to encourage her students to do their very best. Today, Lily said, we are going to learn one of the most important concepts in becoming a fairy, and that is how to fly. I will sprinkle fairy dust over each one of you, and with this dust, if you truly believe in yourself, then you will be able to do anything, including fly. All of the other students closed their eyes as the fairy dust was gently being sprinkled in the air by Lily. I can fly said Martha, one of the students. I can fly said Melinda, another one of the students. After a short time period, all of the students in the class were flying all the way up in the sky. Lily was so proud of all of them. That is all of them except for Isabel.

Maggie dreamt of the day she would leave her abusive husband. She was always afraid of what he might do if he caught her trying to get away with their children. Where would she go? How would she survive? Staying seemed to be her only option for years until one day she'd had enough. Cheryl Lockett Alexander, Author of several MY HERO IS A DUKE...OF HAZZARD Editions turns the table toward becoming an advocate against domestic abuse. "It's time for the violence to stop. You don't have to take it anymore!"Introducing:Co Author: K.R.

Do you love your kids and loathe bad people who want to harm them? If you've ever lost sleep worrying about your kid's safety, you're not alone. You may want to wrap your tween/teen in a protective bubble and defend them from every harm but doing so could emotionally cripple them and make them more, not less, vulnerable to bullies and other predators.In Raising Badass Kids, danger expert CJ Scarlet teaches you how to empower your kid from 10 to 18 to avoid predators and handle themselves in scary situations ranging from bullying/cyberbullying and online dangers to sexual abuse and sex trafficking. Here's some of what the book covers:Who the predators are and the sneaky but effective lures they use to groom kids.How you can teach your kid to spot and avoid predators so he doesn't become their next victim.Easy and effective ways to "bully-proof" your child.The types of dangers your kid might encounter online and how to flag and block inappropriate activity that could endanger her.Sexual molestation and assault-signs, symptoms, and what to do if your kid is a victim.How to empower kids with disabilities to keep them safe. (An entire chapter!)Why You Need to Read This Book NOWThis super informative, unputdownable book (with TONS of downloadable bonus content!) is the new bible for parents looking to raise safe, savvy, confident kids.Not teaching your child how to protect themselves makes them less safe and puts them at risk! You (and your kid) have more power to protect them than you think. Raising Badass Kids is a genuine lifesaver, so read it now and be the parent your child deserves!

Shattered Innocence: Unveiling the Lifelong Impact of Childhood Sexual AbuseDiscover the profound insights that "Shattered Innocence" brings to light as it delves into the long-term repercussions of childhood sexual abuse. This groundbreaking study, meticulously conducted by [Author's Name], unravels the complex relationship between early traumatic experiences and their enduring impact on the lives of college women.Key Findings1. Psychosocial Challenges:2. Social Support Disparities:3. Academic Performance Dynamics:4. Learning Styles and School Perceptions:Implications and Recommendations"Shattered Innocence" not only uncovers critical insights into the lifelong effects of childhood sexual abuse but also highlights the pressing need for attention, awareness, and targeted interventions. The findings contribute to the existing body of research in this crucial area, paving the way for a better understanding of the challenges faced by survivors.Future Directions and LimitationsThe book doesn't stop at revealing the impact; it goes further to discuss future directions for research and acknowledges the study's limitations. This comprehensive approach ensures that readers gain a holistic understanding of the subject matter.Act NowEmpower yourself with knowledge and contribute to the dialogue surrounding childhood sexual abuse. "Shattered Innocence" is not just a book; it's a catalyst for change and a beacon of support for those affected.Order your copy today and embark on a journey of enlightenment and advocacy.

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