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Six-year-old Sheila never spoke, she never cried, and her eyes were filled with hate. Abandoned on a highway by her mother, unwanted by her alcoholic father, Sheila was placed in a class for emotionally disturbed children after she committed an atrocious act of violence against another child. Everyone said Sheila was lost forever, everyone except her teacher, Torey Hayden.Torey fought to reach Sheila, to bring the abused child back from her secret nightmare, because beneath the rage, Torey saw in Sheila the spark of genius. And together they embarked on a wondrous journey?a journey gleaming with a child's joy at discovering a world filled with love and a journey sustained by a young teacher's inspiring bravery and devotion.

Many Christian women live under the weight of the misuse and abuse of authority, without recognising it. Escape from Egypt exposes the subtle and not so subtle ways the enemy has used religion to keep women of God from walking in the fullness of their Kingdom authority.An over-emphasis on submission, the laying down of rights and that God hates divorce has created a culture in which oppression thrives. As a result, many Christian women cannot correctly distinguish between abuses of authority and proper Kingdom authority.In this powerful new book, you will learn:To distinguish between religious oppression and true Kingdom authority.The difference between submission to Godly leaders and bowing to intimidation.To recognise and take steps to break free from shame, control, false guilt, manipulation and intimidation in your relationships.To identify and take back your God-given authority and begin to walk in the freedom of your identity in God.To recognise the hallmarks of healthy relationships as well as abusive relationships.

Over the course of thirty-five years as a therapist, Susan Forward has worked with a large number of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect, and other forms of abuse, women raised by mothers who can't love are plagued by anxiety, depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence, and difficulties with trust. But as Forward explains, it is possible to heal the mother wound and find help and validation.Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can't Love looks at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters and provides effective techniques to help them overcome the pain of their childhoods, reclaim their confidence and self-respect, and break the cycle of emotional destructiveness for future generations.

For seven years, Alison Arngrim played a wretched, scheming, selfish, lying, manipulative brat on one of TV history's most beloved series. Though millions of Little House on the Prairie viewers hated Nellie Oleson and her evil antics, Arngrim grew to love her character?and the freedom and confidence Nellie inspired in her.In Confessions of a Prairie Bitch, Arngrim describes growing up in Hollywood with her eccentric parents: Thor Arngrim, a talent manager to Liberace and others, whose appetite for publicity was insatiable, and legendary voice actress Norma MacMillan, who played both Gumby and Casper the Friendly Ghost. She recalls her most cherished and often wickedly funny moments behind the scenes of Little House: Michael Landon's "unsaintly" habit of not wearing underwear; how she and Melissa Gilbert (who played her TV nemesis, Laura Ingalls) became best friends and accidentally got drunk on rum cakes at 7-Eleven; and the only time she and Katherine MacGregor (who played Nellie's mom) appeared in public in costume, provoking a posse of elementary schoolgirls to attack them.Arngrim relays all this and more with biting wit, but she also bravely recounts her life's challenges: her struggle to survive a history of traumatic abuse, depression, and paralyzing shyness; the "secret" her father kept from her for twenty years; and the devastating loss of her "Little House husband" and best friend, Steve Tracy, to AIDS, which inspired her second career in social and political activism. Arngrim describes how Nellie Oleson taught her to be bold, daring, and determined, and how she is eternally grateful to have had the biggest little bitch on the prairie to show her the way.

In a situation where forgiveness seems unattainable, I give you a formula that works. I grew up in an environment that was built on secrets that created a destructive family legacy. But as an adult, as I searched for answers, what I found was a web of deception and sexual abuse that was many generations deep. My desire to change this corrosive legacy that was created in my family grew stronger after learning that the sexual abuse and deception was more than I could have ever imagined. My charge is to help others with awareness on a difficult topic that is more prevalent than we would like it to be. Learn how to seek and speak your truth in order to stop surviving and start LIVING..

Groundbreaking book providing hope, encouragement, insights and avenues to start the long overdue dialogue on sexual abuse. Its time for a paradigm shift in the collectivistic culture to provide safety,healing, love and protection for its women and children.

Do you feel worthless, empty, confused? Do you feel emotionally exhausted? Do you look in the mirror and not recognize yourself anymore?There is nothing wrong with you. You are caught in a narcissist trap. Toxic relationships can make you sick and destroy your life.According to recent studies, neuroscientists have discovered that long-term narcissistic abuse can lead to actual physical brain damage. That's why we need to act now!Here's just a tiny fraction of what you'll discover:- What is Narcissism- Who is the Narcissist- Understanding the Mind of a Narcissist- The Narcissist's Manipulative Tactics- The Importance of No Contact Rule- Disarm the Narcissist and Take Back Control- Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship- The Difficulties of Love After Abuse- Learning to Distinguish Between a Healthy and an Unhealthy RelationshipThis book is designed to help you CHANGE YOUR LIFE. I'm sure you are not here to bother your head with things you already know about toxic relationships.Most of all this book is not about revenge, it's about LOVE. If you're looking for revenge you're still in the trap."We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one."ConfuciusYou are not alone. I will walk you through a journey of healing and self-love.

"When my sister took her life, she left me with an open window to her heart."This book tells the story of how my twin sister, and I grew up with many of the same experiences of abuse. While the pain we endured affected us both, the paths we chose were quite different. My sister chose the path that led to suicide. As a result, my path has been given more meaning. Through the insights gleaned from my sister's audio therapy session recordings and written journal entries, and the healing work I have done on my own journey, I am determined to help others begin the healing process that is so important when dealing with their own childhood trauma. I share our story to shine light on the residual effects of trauma and the collateral damage that surfaces when we fail to understand the cycle of abuse, how it impacts our future, and the lives of those we love. When we are willing to come face to face with past wounds and the ways they influence our current reality, we can then take back our authentic power and disrupt the cycle of trauma that has carried on in our families for far too long. In this book, I share how you can eradicate the residual affects of your childhood trauma and free yourself from the shackles that have hindered you from moving beyond them. Reading this book is a bold and courageous step. A necessary step in giving your loved ones the freedom to live their lives unbound to the confines of your painful past.

Our home lives naturally affect life outside of our own four residential walls. Domestic violence is not an issue that should be swept under a rug or regarded as only a personal matter. The spilling over of violence at home into the workplace can have considerable consequences not only for the parties involved but also for innocent colleagues clients. In Break the Silent Cycle of Domestic Violence, Zepora Bastian Certain lays out staggering data and a comprehensive course of action for businesses looking to take a proactive stance in protecting their employees from violence. With extensive research, and insightful tips on identifying the symptoms of an abuse victim, Certain has compiled an invaluable resource for both management and employees in clear rhetoric to tackle this silent threat and ultimately help others to help themselves. This book is a tool anyone can use to protect themselves and the ones they care about. In the case of domestic violence, ignorance is everything but bliss.About the AuthorZepora Bastian Certain was born and raised in Jamaica Queens, New York, one of ten children. After proudly serving her country in the Persian Gulf War, she was honorably discharged and began her educational career, which included a B.S. in Accounting, M.B.A in Management and M.S.A.C. in Accounting Controllership. She enjoys volunteering in her community and has even travelled to Honduras to be a blessing to others. Having been a victim of domestic violence herself and seeing firsthand the tangible effects of domestic violence within her work environment, Certain was encouraged to share her experience and process of healing with others. She has been married for over thirty years and has a daughter.

Dark, painful memories can be put away to be forgotten. Until one day they all flood back in horrible detail.When television producers approached Alan Cumming to appear on a popular celebrity genealogy show, he hoped to solve the mystery of his maternal grandfather's disappearance that had long cast a shadow over his family. But this was not the only mystery laid before Alan.Alan grew up in the grip of a man who held his family hostage, someone who meted out violence with a frightening ease, who waged a silent war with himself that sometimes spilled over onto everyone around him. That man was Alex Cumming, Alan's father, whom Alan had not seen or spoken to for more than a decade when he reconnected just before filming for Who Do You Think You Are? began. He had a secret he had to share, one that would shock his son to his very core and set into motion a journey that would change Alan's life forever.With ribald humor, wit, and incredible insight, Alan seamlessly moves back and forth in time, integrating stories from his childhood in Scotland and his experiences today as the celebrated actor of film, television, and stage. At times suspenseful, at times deeply moving, but always incredibly brave and honest, Not My Father's Son is a powerful story of embracing the best aspects of the past and triumphantly pushing the darkness aside.

A Post Hypnotic Suggestion:Keep Your Eyes Wide OpenWhat could an ancient legend, a trumpet flower and a growing subculture of sexual predators using ethically repugnant psychological principles possibly have in common? Uncover the underworld and find out for yourself in this part memoir, part exposé by Passiflora incarnata. Pour over scientific research and real court cases that prove, sometimes, fact really is odder than fiction. Lastly, hear a true and harrowing 1st hand account of an experience in the world of dark psychology that's so outrageous, it will undoubtedly change the way you view what's "possible" or even "probable", forever. If you dare to give it a read, you may just find out something that could save your life-or equally importantly- Your mind.

Hero, Husband, Father . . . Monster?In Creekstone, Texas, a small, quiet suburb of Houston, football was king . . . and David Temple was a prince. A former high school and college gridiron star-turned-coach, he had a fairy-tale marriage to bright, vivacious Belinda Lucas, a teacher at the local high school who was so warm and popular her colleagues called her "The Sunshine Girl."The fairy tale ended savagely on January 11, 1999, when Belinda's lifeless body was discovered in a closet. Her skull had been shattered by a shotgun blast at close range. She was eight months pregnant.There was no damning evidence directly linking the brutal murder to husband David, who stood by emotionless and dry-eyed as police searched the crime scene. But a dogged eight-year investigation would expose a shocking history of cruelty and domination, infidelity and rage?ultimately resulting in an epic courtroom battle for the ages?as the scandalous truth was revealed about love betrayed and innocent lives . . . shattered.

Eight years of darknessOn March 2, 1998, while on her way to school, ten-year-old Natascha Kampusch was abducted. More than eight years later, on August 23, 2006, she escaped with a story that shocked and horrified the entire world. She spent the most delicate years of her life hidden in a cellar underneath an ordinary Austrian suburban home. How was she able to survive? What sort of woman had emerged? What kind of man was Wolfgang Priklopil, her abductor?and what demands had he made of her?Journalists Allan Hall and Michael Leidig covered Natascha's story from the beginning. The result of extraordinary investigative reporting, Girl in the Cellar gets to the heart of this very tragic case to reveal a truth no one would have imagined.

When Judith Mathewson found out her premature daughter was diagnosed with Downs syndrome, she felt it was an unexpected blessing from God. Though weak and frail, mentally challenged and physically handicapped, Kimmy's loving smiles and trusting nature brought more into other people's lives than they could have ever brought into her own. Judy shares her inspiring and heartwarming story of raising three young children while suffering the physical and mental abuse of her former husband. Loving each child equally and nurturing them individually set a perfect example for her daughters, Suzanne Miller and Tamara Keene, who played an instrumental part in teaching and assisting Kimmy in the everyday ways of life. More than a book about a special needs child, this is a book about strength, perseverance, and unconditional love between a mother and her children. ABOUT THE AUTHOR-Judith Mathewson grew up in Alpena, Michigan. Through her writings, Judy hopes to reach out to parents of special needs children, providing resources, encouragement, and above all, a sense of hope. She retired after 27 years from a financial and investment services company that she co-owned and now lives with Kimmy in South Carolina.

Sleeping with a monsterAt first, Linda Bergstrom's marriage to her husband James was idyllic. They were young and in love; he was about to enter the Navy and she was eager to start a family. But it wasn't long before the dream exploded. James became abusive and violent, prone to sudden bursts of anger, long silences, and unexplained disappearances. But Linda vowed to hold on, despite the pain and fear . . . and her disturbing suspicions about her husband's secret life.Then, not long after their move to Houston, Texas, she made a terrifying discovery: James's hidden cache containing duct tape, a ski mask, and handcuffs. No longer could Linda Bergstrom deny the hideous truth.The man she lived with, the man she married for love, was a dangerous psychopath. And there was no escape and nowhere to run. Because no one?not her friends, the Navy, or the police?would believe her.

The #1 New York Times and #1 internationally bestselling author who is a shining example of what overcoming adversity really means now shares the lost chapter of his uplifting journey, which has touched the lives of millions. From A Child Called "It" to The Lost Boy, from A Man Named Dave to Help Yourself, Dave Pelzer's inspirational books have helped countless others triumph over hardship and misfortune. In The Privilege of Youth, he shares the missing chapter of his life: as a boy on the threshold of adulthood. With sensitivity and insight, he recounts the relentless taunting he endured from bullies; but he also describes the thrill of making his first real friends-some of whom he still shares close relationships with today. He writes about the simple pleasures of exploring his neighborhood, while trying to forget the hell waiting for him at home.From high school to a world beyond the four walls that were his prison for so many years, The Privilege of Youth bravely and compassionately charts this crucial turning point in Dave Pelzer's life and will inspire a whole new generation of readers.

A remarkable memoir that speaks in an original and distinctive Midwestern voice, rising to indelible scenes in prose of scathing beauty and fierce humor. A young girl is perched on the cold chrome of yet another doctor's examining table, missing yet another day of school. Just twelve, she's tall, skinny, and weak. It's four o'clock, and she hasn't been allowed to eat anything all day. Her mother, on the other hand, seems curiously excited. She's about to suggest open-heart surgery on her child to "get to the bottom of this." She checks her teeth for lipstick and, as the doctor enters, shoots the girl a warning glance. This child will not ruin her plans.From early childhood, Julie Gregory was continually X-rayed, medicated, and operated on-in the vain pursuit of an illness that was created in her mother's mind. Munchausen by proxy (MBP) is the world's most hidden and dangerous form of child abuse, in which the caretaker-almost always the mother-invents or induces symptoms in her child because she craves the attention of medical professionals. Many MBP children die, but Julie Gregory not only survived, she escaped the powerful orbit of her mother's madness and rebuilt her identity as a vibrant, healthy young woman.Punctuated with Julie's actual medical records, Sickened re-creates the bizarre cocoon of her family's isolated double-wide trailer, their wild shopping sprees and gun-waving confrontations, the astonishing naïveté of medical professionals and social workers. It also exposes the twisted bonds of terror and love that roped Julie's family together-including the love that made a child willing to sacrifice herself to win her mother's happiness. The realization that the sickness lay in her mother, not in herself, would not come to Julie until adulthood. But when it did, it would strike like lightning. Through her painful metamorphosis, she discovered the courage to save her own life-and, ultimately, the life of the girl her mother had found to replace her. Sickened takes us to new places in the human heart and spirit. It is an unforgettable story, unforgettably told.

There's nothing as wonderful as starting to heal, waking up in the morning and knowing that nobody can hurt you if you don't let them.Beginning to Heal offers hope and guidance for all survivors starting the healing journey. No matter how great your pain today, you can not only heal but thrive. Based on the authors' bestseller The Courage to Heal, this Revised Edition of Beginning to Heal takes you through the key stages of the healing process, from crisis times to breaking the silence, grief, and anger, to resolution and moving on. It includes inspirational highlights, clear explanations, practical suggestions, and compelling accounts of survivors' pain, their strength, and their triumphs.

For millions of men on the path to recovery, Victims No Longer is the next step.The first book written specifically for men, Victims No Longer examines the changing cultural attitudes toward male survivors of incest and other sexual trauma. Now, in this Second Edition, this invaluable resource continues to offer compassionate and practical advice, supported by personal anecdotes and statements of male survivors. Victims No Longer helps survivors to: Identify and validate their childhood experiencesExplore strategies of survival and healingWork through issues such as trust, intimacy, and sexual confusionEstablish a support network for continued personal recoveryMake choices that aren't determined by abusePsychotherapist Mike Lew has worked with thousands of men and women in their healing from the effects of childhood sexual abuse, rape, physical violence, emotional abuse, and neglect. The development of strategies for recovery from incest and other abuse, particularly for men, has been a major focus of his work as a counselor and group leader.Thoroughly updated and revised, and including an expanded Resources section, Victims No Longer educates survivors and professionals about the recovery process -- speaking to the pain, needs, fears, and hopes of the adult male survivor.

In this practical handbook for families and churches, Dr. R. Timothy Kearney shows how the healing touch of God can come, frequently through God's people, to children who have experienced sexual abuse.